The Friend Zone (The Breakdown)

If you already know or have heard of “The Friend Zone”, then I am sure that you will understand what I mean when I say that it is one of the biggest obstacles man will ever  face in terms of “Getting some” so to speak. If you are completely unaware of “The Friend Zone” then allow me to explain what it is, and you can thank me later. 

There are several stages that people go through in terms of their relationships with other people. In order to explain what “The Friend Zone” is, I will first explain what the 6 stages are in our relationships with people. 

Stage 1 (Strangers)

It’s pretty straightforward and obvious. Everyone starts off as strangers. Unless you have some sort of secret file of everyone in your area with all of their information that allows you to “know them” before actually knowing them, then this is where it starts. We usually end this stage with finding something you two have in common or simply out of building up the confidence to go out and talk to new people. 

Stage 2 (Acquaintances)

It’s at this stage where you are at the very least on a “name to name” basis. Or at least one of you remembers their name and the other person remembers their face (I hope).  It’s the point where you’ve seen each other and talked enough times to be able to say that you know then, but not as well as one of their usual friends that they are always seen with.  The only one can possibly leave this stage is to spend more quality to become closer friends. Hopefully, by then you’ll know them by face and actually remember their name by then. 

Stage 3 (Frequent Friends)

This is also where the “Friend Zone” begins so pay attention now.  “The Friend Zone” is seen as the zone where most girls want to stay at. For a very long time; trust me, a very long time.  I called this stage “Frequent Friends” as this is the time where you see each other often, but only casually.  You’ve talked a lot, but you haven’t started any conversations that would be considered “serious”.  Girls consider this stage to be the first step in a friendship, as this lets them figure a person out in terms of habits and certain aspects of their personality they may or may not like.  In order for one to see the next stage; they must simply start dedicating more time into this person.  They’ll have to start getting into their personal space; slowly but surely helping them with their personal issues and gain a special trust and bond with them. 

Stage 4 (Good/Best Friends)

Listen careful, this is when “The Friend Zone” traps you. For anyone looking for sex, this is not where you look.  Once a girl gains complete trust in intrusting you with personal space as well as personal time, that’ll be everything she wants in a “friend”.  If you hide your sexual desires from her too well, she may never know it’s what you truly want.  If you reveal it to her too late, then you’ll get the “We have such a good friendship, I wouldn’t want to ruin it by taking a risk” speech.  This is the speech that kills all hope and chances, unless you want to take the risk in pursuit and possibly lose the person altogether.  That’s how “The Friend Zone” traps you.  You wok hard to gain their trust, get close, dedicate your time and when you try and make a move and become “Friends with Benefits” (Which is the next stage); the plan backfires.  Now, there are one of two things you can do at this point: You can either stay in this stage as long as it takes for her to change her mind, or do your best to avoid this stage altogether so you can jump into the “Friends with Benefits” stage. You can do this by making sure she knows from the get go that you want action and that you want it with her.  Some girls like it when guys are straight up with what they want; it means you aren’t afraid to take what you like, and it also means you have confidence which is another plus. 

Stage 5 (Friends with Benefits)

This is every man’s dream.  I mean, this is the stage that means sex without commitment.  What straight guy wouldn’t die to have this life?  This is the light at the end of the tunnel that (for arguments sake) we’ll call the “Good/Best Friends” stage.  This is the stage where the two of you fool around for fun and absolutely love being together. You act like a couple, but at the same time have a mutual understanding that there is no relationship and thus there is no commitment for either person.  The only step you could possibly take further is our next stage, which is an actual relationship.  Depending on what your taste is however, you may wish to stay at this stage.  However, “The Friend Zone” is going to make one lasting statement.  This is in terms of how long you wish to stay in this final stage of “The Friend Zone”. 

Stage 6 (Relationship)

Depending on your views this may be Heaven or Hell. On one end, you’ve finally broken out of “The Friend Zone” and into that special someone.  However, you can no longer mingle with anyone other than your significant other but that shouldn’t be a problem if you’ve picked the right one (Hopefully).  So on the plus side you’ve found that perfect someone, however you’ve restricted myself to only having sex with one person.  Whether you agree with or not is entirely up to you.  If you do agree with the idea of the perfect relationship, then my best advice for you is to just be yourself.  Who needs pick up lines when the person is supposed to “love” you and not the fake image you make of yourself. 

All in all “The Friend Zone” was seemingly created by girls to ensure that they are not played by “Man Whores” and to ensure that they get to know that special someone long enough to know it’s them.  For all you men who actually are “Man Whores” and looking for just sex and I don’t mean to say that all of you are “Man Whores” I have but this piece of advice for you; honesty is the best policy.  Let the girl know all you want is sex and hopefully you meet the one that doesn’t mind the lack of commitment. You just have to be patient and be prepared for slaps and insults galore.  

- Francis Frustration